October is Domestic Violence
And each year we celebrate with our
our Domestic Violence Awareness BBQ.
Our event last year was a great success!
We are so glad that around 275 of us could come together to enjoy great food, great company and celebrate what we have done together. We also heard personal stories and learned more about domestic violence. Many thanks to all who joined us! And to those who couldn't but sent us well wishes and made a donation in honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month, many thanks.
- Tamara Eller, Chair
American Red Cross
- Diana Bentley
Aon Risk Solutions
- Angela Colombero
- Rosemary Sullivan
- Beryl Torrence
Kannapolis City Schools
- Robin and Alan Davis
- Barbara and Robin Hayes
- Premier Machining
- Shoe Show, Inc.
- Norman and Deanna Shue Foundation
- Rosemary and Mike Sullivan
- Tooling Innovations
- Diana and Howard Bentley
- Dave Cash, Allstate
- Mike and Loretta Coltrane
- Complete Design & Packaging
- Leslie and Christopher Flynn
- Gail and David Holding
- Monica and Larry Layton
- Rosemary and James Loftus
- Laurie and Jim Miller
- S & D Coffee & Tea
- Judy and John Stoy
- 31 Construction
- Beaver Dam Nursery
- Marilyn and Richard Burrage
- Peggy and Carl Comer
- F & M Bank
- Kay, Sonny and Katie Helms
- Joe and Nancy Aubitz Hunter
- Vergie and Bill Krimminger
- Libby's Clean & Shine
- Milligan Architecture
- Jon and Tina Tyler
- Jill and Jim Wall
- Martha and Richard Walters
- Cathy Altmann
- Lisa Burke
- Karen and Vernon Byrd
- Concord Printing Company
- Jeanne and Thomas Dixon
- Doughgirls Catering
- Michele Durkin
- Tamara and Trip Eller
- Mary Margaret Flynn
- Coretta and Bernard Grant
- Karen and David Harper
- Betty & Diane Honeycutt, Allen Tate Realtors
- It's All About You Salon
- Reshell Johnson
- Sheree and Robert Kear
- Cheryl and Doug Kelling
- Bess and Kent Kercher
- Margaret and Brian Moore
- Helen Morrison
- Annette and Scott Moss
- Piedmont Plastics
- Mary Anne and Charles Ritchie
- Delinda and Rick Rodgers
- Deb and Randy Triece
- Ginger and Jonathan Zsambeky
Fortunately, there has been public dialogue about domestic violence.
Writer, Beverly Gooden created #whyistayed on twitter last year and continues to stay strong.
Here are just a few of the hundreds of thousands of tweets:
And the 90 second piece by NFL commentator, James Brown, talks about how attitudes towards women impact violence against women.
Watch the powerful 90 second video, originially broadcast the fall 2014,
from commentator James Brown here
10 things you may not know
about Domestic Violence and CVAN
- CVAN had 31 women and children staying in our Shelter this summer â€“ and had to use 2 â€œoverflowâ€ houses. We normally average 15, but have averaged 20 or more for over a year.
- â€œRule of Thumbâ€ comes from an old North Carolina law that said a man could beat his wife with a stick, provided it was no wider than his thumb.
- CVANâ€™s newest program began in February 2013 â€“ our Womenâ€™s Jail Program. We do weekly domestic violence educational classes at the Cabarrus County Detention Center.
- VAWA - the Violence Against Women Act - was a landmark federal law that passed 20 years ago. It created funding, legislation and discussion that impacted Shelters, law enforcement and spurred a National Domestic Violence Hotline â€“ 1-800-799-SAFE.
- In August, 1984, CVAN opened our Shelter. This summer, we had 4 children celebrate birthdays while staying in Shelter. The youngest turned one.
- Domestic Violence affects a womanâ€™s health in less obvious ways: Women who have experienced domestic violence are 80 percent more likely to have a stroke, 70 percent more likely to have heart disease and 60 percent more likely to have asthma than women who have not.
- The first Battered Womenâ€™s Shelter in the United States opened in St. Paul, Minnesota in 1973.
- CVAN is an acronym for Cabarrus Victims Assistance Network â€“ thatâ€™s how we incorporated on September 10, 1981 â€“ our â€œbirthdayâ€ as an organization.
- October 8, 1984, over one-third of all American television sets tuned into the premiere of â€œThe Burning Bed.â€ Based on the true story of a battered woman, Francine Hughes.
- Your support does matter: A recent Shelter Resident wrote, â€œCVAN has given me a life that will keep on giving for eternity.â€
Click here to view and print off the Domestic Violence Awareness Matrix and see how you can explore the many ways that you can be more involved with CVAN.
The most important thing to do is to Listen & Learn:
- Listen to her - itâ€™s one of the most powerful things you can do.
- Give her our 24-hour hotline number (704.788.2826) to explore her options; talk about resources; and make a safety plan. Our hotline is confidential.
- Know that she may not be ready to talk with us right away. Every woman has her own process.
- You can also call our 24-hour hotline (704.788.2826) you can talk with an Advocate about her situation; our services and how to help her.
- Know that she may not be ready to leave. Leaving is difficult and dangerous and is a unique process for each woman. Only she knows when she is ready to leave safely.
- A woman is battered every 15 seconds in the United States.
- Between 85%-95% of domestic violence victims are women.
- Approximately 1 in 3 adolescent girls are abused in a dating relationship.
- Battering can happen to any woman. If you stereotype, then you will miss the battered woman in front of you.