October is Domestic Violence
Awareness Month

Each year we kick-off with our Domestic Violence Awareness Event. Last October, we came together for an evening of great BBQ, great company and to celebrate what we have done together. Most importantly, we heard personal stories and learned more about domestic violence. Many thanks to all who joined us! And to those who couldn't but sent in a special gift in honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month, thank you.

Mark your Calendar - Thursday 10/4/18


Click Here to see photos of our past BBQ's!

    2018 Committee:
  • Beryl Torrence, Chair
    Kannapolis City Schools
  • Diana Bentley
    Aon Risk Solutions
  • Angela Colombero
    B.A. Hoft
  • Tamara Eller
    American Red Cross
  • Heather Starnes
    Cabarrus County Sheriff's Office
  • Rosemary Sullivan
    Tooling Innovations

2018 Sponsors - to date:

  • Robin and Alan Davis
  • Dona and Jerry Hagler
  • Shoe Show, Inc.
  • Rosemary and Mike Sullivan

  • Diana and Howard Bentley
  • Mike and Loretta Coltrane
  • Leslie and Christopher Flynn
  • Gail and David Holding
  • Deanna and Norman Shue

  • Gail and David Holding
  • Rosemary and James Loftus
  • Judy and John Stoy
  • 31 Construction
  • Jill and Jim Wall
  • Martha and Richard Walters

  • Allstate Insurance Company
  • Peggy and Carl Comer
  • Jeanne A. and Thomas H. Dixon
  • Michele Durkin
  • Kay, Sonny and Katie Helms
  • Jon and Tina Tyler

  • Bryan Cook’s Tree Service
  • Karen and Vernon Byrd
  • Concord Printing Company
  • Doughgirls Catering
  • Mary Margaret Flynn
  • D Evans and Jackie Freeze
  • Coretta and Bernard Grant
  • Karen and David Harper
  • Sheree and Robert Kear
  • Bess and Kent Kercher
  • Vergie and Bill Krimminger
  • Monica and Larry Layton
  • Laurie McLaughlin
  • Margaret and Brian Moore
  • Helen Morrison
  • Annette and Scott Moss
  • Mary Anne and Charles Ritchie
  • Delinda and Rick Rodgers
  • Salon Autumn
  • Deb and Randy Triece
  • Sylvia Wagoner
  • Barbara Wilson
  • Ginger and Jonathan Zsambeky

Fortunately, there has been public dialogue about domestic violence.

Writer, Beverly Gooden created #whyistayed on twitter last year and continues to stay strong.

Here are just a few of the hundreds of thousands of tweets:

And the 90 second piece by NFL commentator, James Brown, talks about how attitudes towards women impact violence against women.

Watch the powerful 90 second video, originially broadcast the fall 2014, from commentator James Brown here

    10 things you may not know
    about Domestic Violence and CVAN

  1. CVAN had 31 women and children staying in our Shelter this summer - and had to use 2 "overflow" houses. We normally average 15, but have averaged 20 or more for over a year.
  2. "Rule of Thumb" comes from an old North Carolina law that said a man could beat his wife with a stick, provided it was no wider than his thumb.
  3. CVAN's newest program began in February 2013 - our Women's Jail Program. We do weekly domestic violence educational classes at the Cabarrus County Detention Center.
  4. VAWA - the Violence Against Women Act - was a landmark federal law that passed 20 years ago. It created funding, legislation and discussion that impacted Shelters, law enforcement and spurred a National Domestic Violence Hotline - 1-800-799-SAFE.
  5. In August, 1984, CVAN opened our Shelter. This summer, we had 4 children celebrate birthdays while staying in Shelter. The youngest turned one.
  6. Domestic Violence affects a woman's health in less obvious ways: Women who have experienced domestic violence are 80 percent more likely to have a stroke, 70 percent more likely to have heart disease and 60 percent more likely to have asthma than women who have not.
  7. The first Battered Women's Shelter in the United States opened in St. Paul, Minnesota in 1973.
  8. CVAN is an acronym for Cabarrus Victims Assistance Network - that's how we incorporated on September 10, 1981 - our "birthday" as an organization.
  9. October 8, 1984, over one-third of all American television sets tuned into the premiere of "The Burning Bed." Based on the true story of a battered woman, Francine Hughes.
  10. Your support does matter: A recent Shelter Resident wrote, "CVAN has given me a life that will keep on giving for eternity."

Click here to view and print off the Domestic Violence Awareness Matrix and see how you can explore the many ways that you can be more involved with CVAN.

The most important thing to do is to Listen & Learn:

  • Listen to her - it's one of the most powerful things you can do.
  • Give her our 24-hour hotline number (704.788.2826) to explore her options; talk about resources; and make a safety plan. Our hotline is confidential.
  • Know that she may not be ready to talk with us right away. Every woman has her own process.
  • You can also call our 24-hour hotline (704.788.2826) you can talk with an Advocate about her situation; our services and how to help her.
  • Know that she may not be ready to leave. Leaving is difficult and dangerous and is a unique process for each woman. Only she knows when she is ready to leave safely.
  • Learn:
  • A woman is battered every 15 seconds in the United States.
  • Between 85%-95% of domestic violence victims are women.
  • Approximately 1 in 3 adolescent girls are abused in a dating relationship.
  • Battering can happen to any woman. If you stereotype, then you will miss the battered woman in front of you.

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